What about men and money is so sexy? Via Shutterstock.
I don’t know about you, but money is a turn on for me. Having money, that is. (As opposed to spending money. Big spenders, to me, are often compensating for low confidence.) I’ll admit, when I was dating my husband, a lot of his financial decisions turned me on (list below).
What about money turns you on?
1. He had nice appliances. A high quality vacuum that said, I care about having a clean house. (Major bonus.) And a washer dryer set that had more buttons than I’d ever seen before. (I need to get out more, people!) I could have my bra and undies washed just…so. And don’t get me started on his dishwasher. It’s one of those that takes two hours to clean the dishes but everything comes out steaming hot and perfect. Domestic bliss!
2. He owned his home, which told me he made enough money to pay a mortgage, and had the cojones to make a life-changing purchase on his own. Aside from money, confidence is extremely attractive.
3. He contributed to his Roth IRA and his 401k. So I knew he saved money before spending it.
4. He had an older car, a 2006 Honda Element. The car is super ugly, something that to this day I have never told him. My words were more along the lines of, It’s not the best looking car, hon, but it meets our needs.” The Element is also comfortable and only requires oil changes. A zero maintenance car? Kiss me now!
5. He cut his own hair. Hubs doesn’t have a lot of hair, so perhaps that is part of the reason he shaves his head himself. But I think it also has to do with his practical nature. Why spend $15 and 45 minutes with a barber when he can buzz his own head in 10 minutes for free at home?
Note, the mess this makes is decidedly unsexy.
6. He flew across the county to see me, at considerable expense. The message was, I’m totally willing to spend a lot of money to be with you. Melting!
7. When I moved across the country to live with him, instead of suggesting I buy my own bedroom furniture, he cleared out half his bureau to make room for my clothes. A gesture as romantic as it is frugal!
What sexy financial decisions has the special person in your life made? If you met someone tomorrow, what about their financial profile would be a turn on?
PS. No, the man in the picture is not my Hubs. He’s even sexier.
Welcome to Bargain Babe! I’m Mara, and I’m so glad you’re here. I am an obsessive bargain hunter and penny pincher, and I am determined to live a full life without EVER paying full price.
Whoa, BB! You wrote: “PS. No, the man in the picture is not my Hubs. He’s even sexier.” WHO is even sexier? And answer truthfully, as if “Hubs” doesn’t read your blog. (Does he–regularly?)
@Diane Hahaha! I was wondering if anyone would notice that ambiguity. Hubs is not a model, but he’s way hotter than a stock image. He’s real! And yes, he reads BB from time to time.
No credit card debt. My friends and I talk about this a lot. We have all dated women with a lot of credit card debt (sometimes upwards of 13,000 at the age of 23-25) and we don’t want that. It’s scary enough paying down my own debt, but I can’t rely on someone else without self-control to help me maintain a budget.
@kretek That’s a huge one, I agree. How to you bring up the topic of debt early on in the “getting to know you” process? Are you subtle? Do you come right out and ask? It’s a sensitive topic, and I’m guess a lot of girls you date don’t want to share that info.
“He flew across the county to see me” – did you mean country instead? otherwise it seems a pretty big county or a show-off 🙂
@BB ~ I had noticed that as well but decided to cut you some slack–for once!
Those are definitely some financial attributes that are very sexy in a man. I have a male friend that had a bunch of precious metals and he gathered all of them and sold them to a local gold buyer, Corona Cash for Gold. He got lots of money and took his long-time girlfriend on a vacation. I thought that was very sexy, too.